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Mastering The Book For Your Life

 

The key to creating an extraordinary life is mastering the book for your Life or Map of Meaning and Action. Your Driving Force tells you what goals or needs you value most, while your Guiding Force determines how you know if these needs are being met. For example, if you value love and connection as your highest need, your rulebook will contain the belief systems and rules you believe are necessary to achieve this.

There are seven categories of beliefs that shape how we create meaning for our lives:

  1. GLOBAL BELIEFS: These include our beliefs about the purpose of life and death, what creates pain and what are the rewards. Additionally, it includes our beliefs about the resources available to us such as time, money, people, love, emotions, and life metaphors. We might have a belief that life is short and therefore time is scarce and valuable, or we might have a belief that life is long and time is abundant. Our beliefs about the resources available to us can also include our beliefs about money and the abundance or scarcity of it. These beliefs will affect the way we use our time and money and how we prioritize our life goals.

  2. IDENTITY: This category includes our beliefs about who we are, who we are not, our role models, and the story of our life. It also includes our archetypes or roles, the quality of those archetypes, and the stage of life we are in. For example, we might identify ourselves as a warrior and strive to embody the qualities of a warrior such as courage, strength, and determination. Alternatively, we might identify ourselves as a victim and strive to embody the qualities of a victim such as vulnerability, helplessness, and powerlessness. Our beliefs about our identity affect the way we see ourselves and the world around us.

  3. VALUES: This category includes our beliefs about what is most important to us in life and the feelings we would do almost anything to avoid. We can also determine our values in specific areas of our life such as work, relationships, finances, and health. For example, we might value love and connection as our highest need and strive to build meaningful relationships in our life. Alternatively, we might value wealth and success as our highest need and strive to achieve financial stability and career advancement. Our values shape the way we make decisions and the priorities we set for ourselves.

  4. RULES: These are the set of beliefs that guide us, acting as a judge and jury. They are the source of heaven and hell within us, influencing our feelings of aliveness, worthiness/significance, certainty, and love. For example, we might have a rule that says "I am not good enough" or "I am not worthy of love", which can lead to feelings of inadequacy and low self-esteem. Alternatively, we might have a rule that says "I am capable and worthy" which can lead to feelings of confidence and self-worth. Our rules shape the way we see ourselves and the world around us.

  5. VEHICLES/VIRTUAL VILLAINS: These are the things we use to try to meet our needs such as money, career, physical body, relationships, religion, problems, suffering, pain, helplessness, etc. Virtual villains are things like time, boss, co-workers, family, the world, the past/future/present, etc. For example, we might use our career as a vehicle to meet our need for financial stability and success, or we might use our physical body as a vehicle to meet our need for health and fitness. On the other hand, we might see our boss as a virtual villain that prevents us from achieving our goals or our family as a 

    source of stress and negativity. These vehicles and virtual villains can either support or hinder us in achieving our goals and needs.

    1. SITUATION-SPECIFIC BELIEFS: This category includes our beliefs about results and specific situations where it's okay to violate our rules. For example, we might have a belief that failure is not acceptable and will result in punishment, which can lead to feelings of anxiety and fear of failure. Alternatively, we might have a belief that failure is a natural part of learning and growth, which can lead to a more resilient attitude towards failure. Additionally, we might have certain situations or circumstances where we allow ourselves to violate our rules, such as "it's okay to be late for a party, but not for a meeting". These beliefs shape our behavior and reactions in specific situations.

    It's important to remember that even if two people value the same needs, what is unique to each person is how they decide if these needs are met. This rulebook differs for each of us and ultimately impacts the quality of our lives. By understanding and mastering our own Rulebook for Life, we can make conscious choices and decisions that align with our values and needs, leading to a more fulfilling and extraordinary life.

In conclusion, understanding and mastering our Rulebook for Life is a powerful tool in creating an extraordinary life. By becoming aware of our driving force, guiding force, and the seven categories of beliefs that shape our reality, we can make conscious choices and decisions that align with our values and needs. We can break free from limiting beliefs and rules that hold us back, and instead choose to live a life that is authentic and fulfilling. Remember, you are in control of your own rulebook and have the power to rewrite it in a way that serves you and your highest needs. Embrace the journey of self-discovery and take the necessary steps to create the life you truly desire.

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